TBT - HOW DID I BECOME A STRANGER

Good day, how have you been? Hope the hustle is getting interesting and encouraging? Just take a chill pill and believe in your sweat and God, it's surely going to make a whole lot of sense.


I was with a friend recently, and he asked me a question, he asked what this illustration meant; the dog that sees you and wags its tail, suddenly becomes the dog that sees you and barks.

Quickly, something struck my mind like lightning between a pouring rain, and that is the real fact that so many people in life, our life's, suddenly become a stranger in their very homes.

I don't want to go into the issue entirely. Instead, I will just stick to my calling which is the relationship part of the problem.

I sat back and discovered that this could be as a result of two primary reasons:

• THE YOU FACTOR
• THE SPOUSE FACTOR

Let me quickly give you a hint on how these two elements can make you become a stranger in your relationship.


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• THE YOU FACTOR:

 This has to do with you. Most times we fail to admit checking what we have done wrong or what we have been doing wrong. We feel so proud pointing at other people's fault and passing the blame around; veritably we are the Jesus of every situation and tend to be the perfect Mary.

Most times, we allow ego and pride to cloud our sense of judgment, and we find it virtually impossible to say ‘am sorry.' Let me ask if you as an individual can cope with most of the behaviors you put up with someone you are intertwined with?

Some of us do not possess the attribute of showing care, being considerate, loving, encouraging, motivating, transparency and most of all, God fearing.

Hold on, if the entire negative attribute as earlier mentioned are what you possess, well a spouse who is ready to cope with all your shortcomings may hang on with you, but what about spouses that don't have that patience for second thoughts.

The more reason you are advised to check where you are missing it. So like my friend asked me, maybe the bones you throw at the dog are of lesser quality, or the perfume you put on is not just good enough for the dog any longer. The "You" factor.

• THE SPOUSE FACTOR:

This is another crucial part that needs to be well understood. A spouse can make you become a stranger in your relationship, and you just find him/her trying to understand. He/she has become a misery overnight, and you can't seem to just phantom the issue.

There might be a big Crack if you don't know how to handle him/her. Let say, for instance, he becomes very uncaring and finds it difficult even to reply your salutation, you know at a point you feel like just letting him/her be because you feel you should not stalk him/her or you start to feel that ego of ‘let the worse happen.'

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 It is often better for you to try to understand your spouse so much that even when he/she starts becoming a stranger to you, you can quickly pull him/her back. In short, don't give room for your spouse to make you a stranger before you do the needful.
So like my friend said, your spouse is the dog itself that is now barking at you, he/she might be very brutal to move closer to, and the reason for the barking must be deduced. So play around with the dog again and get the dog to wag its tail again.

In conclusion, for everybody that is becoming a stranger in his/her relationship, please endeavor to check yourself and check out for your spouse. I love you all, do enjoy life while you are all alive. Thanks

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