#TalkToTOBBIE - THE STAGES OF A RELATIONSHIP AND ITS AFTERMATHS

Down The Path
I remember starting the journey of life as just a fetus down to being a baby to being an infant to a teenager to youth and an adult. *whew* seems am about to start talking.

Relationship As A fetus.

We all barely know nothing about this stage of our lives, but we totally depend on what comes into the womb of the blessed woman that carried us. But there was a relationship that has been going on between us as the fetus and the mother and the environment.

We might not be able to react to all, but definitely, you must have been told at one stage of your development that you kicked inside of me so hard when I was pregnant. But the relationship between you and the mother might have been right or wrong depending on what state of readiness she was when she took you in as a fetus.

You might just not be the next thing in her plan when you sneaked into her *lols* but then she has no option any longer, but am sure that for every bit of event that happens there is always a relationship.

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Relationship As A Baby

Welcome to the world of reality, now you are outside the womb finally. You start to establish a relationship between you and the mother and then your father and your siblings; you start growing to a stage of distinguishing between family and strangers, you learn to react to issues and events by crying. You also demand attention, and you begin to listen to the language and start to comprehend on your own just that you are not privileged to speak.

You start learning to mingle with babies like you if there are any around. You start learning till you finally grow to start talking, you finally start getting scolded and being yelled at for unpleasant deeds. But that does not entirely stop you from doing such act again. At this stage, u begin to learn bits of love and hate. And this starts to manifest in your behaviors towards each depending on which part they fall in.

It is important that we all understand that at every stage of development, there is always a kind of relationship established and it grows on with us.

Relationship As A Teenager

This stage of a relationship is a make/ma stage, the relationship at this stage starts to define what kind of person we might grow up to be. This is a stage of puberty where everything you always want is freedom, and I mean freedom in its real sense, now let me drive us all a bit close to this stage where we start having casual and intimate feelings for the opposite sex, hmmm, somebody just had a deep sigh now and with a thought of I remember that guy and oh I remember that lady.

Some of those people that just struck your mind now might still be in contact with you and some you've lost contact with a very long time ago. Some you wish you can see now, either for you to say an enormous thank you or to say to them *yank* you.

Some you don't want to see at all either for blessing sake or a curse sake. I remember that it's at this stage most people will come up with "the first love story." Which is just another brochure entirely?

Relationship As A Youth 

The relationship from the stages we've mentioned above has done on us, and we just have become a pro's in our day-to-day relationship with people. Some people at this juncture becomes a player or the "playee" because they still can't handle what they've experienced in their early ages.

Some people becomes rigid or flexible; some become lovers or haters, some become saints or sinners, some become straight or cruel, some become actor or boss. But whichever anyone becomes, they are just a product of their relationship and their decision.

Relationship As An Adult
Finally our relationships and what we've learned all through the years becomes our wealth of experience, but yet we are not still perfect in our dealings with people on a daily basis. It's perfect not because we've not learned enough but because people have grown differently and have had a different form of relationships ranging from good, bad and ugly.

But as adults, we would be expected to handle people accordingly to our wealth of experience. Human beings can never and would never be perfect in their everyday life. There would always be shortcomings.

The relationship is a sacred thing and should not be taking for granted, from the stage of being a teenager to adulthood. Most of the problems we have today are all products of disrespecting one another's relationship.

Let me just talk about the so called LOVE kind of relationship. This love has so much affected so many people positively or negatively. You love someone, and you get hurt, and someone preaches to you, and you try another, and you still get hurt, what kind of relationship would you start having with people around you. In fact, you start to transfer aggression on people that knows nothing about your ordeal.

Also, learn not to force yourself into unhealthy relationships, all in the name of I don't want to lose him or her, there are 1 million people outside there that are way too better than that relationship you are begging to keep. Think outside the box and not turn yourself into an object of option for someone who's just taking you like a UPS to a system.

Learn to appreciate a working relationship, if someone is trying to be the best for you and you are waiting for the person to bring down his or her head down to please you, then you are a cruel person, have you forgotten nobody is perfect, and you also have your shortcomings?

This individual has learned to overlook your shortcomings to just stay with you, and you are feeling like one King monster, you better fly out of that mode before it's too late.

What's working for you might not work for me, that's why we all learn differently. Stop comparing your relationship with others, we all cover our dirty socks with our shoes; it's until we remove our shoes before you perceive the odor of the stink from the socks and shoe.

Conclusively. Respect your relationship and don't ever feel there are no records of our deeds be it good or bad.    
THANKS

NOSIRU TOBI
Aka: TOBBIE